I was reminded once again how hard and beautiful it is to be a woman the other day. I was at my annual mammogram appointment where I saw two friends sitting close together, they were both working mothers too. One friend was there as support to the other. I actually struck up a conversation with them partially to contain my own nerves. They were so warm and sweet to me, it was like we were all cheering each other on. This just really pointed out to me that YES we DO do it all and are expected to do it all. We constantly question ourselves. Are we doing enough? How can we do better? Isn’t funny that we question how we are doing and what we are doing while being so damn exhausted most of the time.
There are so many double standards out there when it comes to men and woman. If a woman gets divorces they worry how am I going to date, I am not as young as I used to be, maybe time has not been so kind to the ole’ face(yes she can visit the dermatologist for a number of youth treatments), but why should we? To look like a 25 year old. You know what, I emotionally would never want to be a 25 year old again. I doubt very much men fret over the wrinkles in their face or if their “tush” is not as small as it used to be.Woman tend to be a lot more forgiving if a man is overweight or no longer has hair. I don’t think most men are not that open minded when it comes to a woman’s appearance.
I am just saying I hate the fact that there is so much social pressure on women to do it all. The other morning while rushing to catch the bus for school I had a breakdown trying to get on my snow boots along with my daughter. I had been up at 5:00 AM to go to the gym, I had to prepare that day for a video shoot I was directing, I had to deal with our year end taxes, pick up new ballet shoes for my eldest and finally send out invitations for my 2 year class cocktail party. As all these thoughts of “to dos” were running through my head I was still struggling to get my boot on. ALL of a sudden my husband looks at me while he is staring at himself in the mirror getting ready for work, “Do I look ok”? Maybe I should wear the brown sweater instead of this navy one? I looked up sweating since I had my winter garb on and replied, “Yeah, sure”. The tears started to flow down my face. I had been pushed to my limit. I could care less about his fashion dilemma. He barely noticed I was even upset at that moment. He has many great qualities but I do not even think he know what the term multi-task means.
I get so overwhelmed at times I feel like I am going to explode. I just thank goodness for my amazing girlfriends because I know that they too feel the same way at times. SO ladies, we are blessed even when nothing on our to do list gets crossed off to have each other.
My must have Must do list:
Valentine’s Day gifts for your little sweeties: These affordable tees from Children’s Place (www.childrensplace.com) are adorned with red hearts and the words “Love” or “My Sweet” on them. Also check out their Sleepwear “Love Monkey” pajamas, slippers. Other pj styles include long-sleeve heart nightgowns.
Here is a little winter glam pick me up for your chilly evenings out:
(JCrew.com) Satin Clutch.I love the “jewel” on the these purses. $98.00
Red Salam Teapot. This is a French Classic teapot made since 1953. Perfect for
Valentines Day and just a beautiful piece to have sitting on your stove. williams-sonoma.com
