Archive for January, 2009

The Women ROCK!

Thursday, January 29th, 2009

I was reminded once again how hard and beautiful it is to be a woman the other day. I was at my annual mammogram appointment where I saw two friends sitting close together, they were both working mothers too. One friend was there as support to the other. I actually struck up a conversation with them partially to contain my own nerves. They were so warm and sweet to me, it was like we were all cheering each other on. This just really pointed out to me that YES we DO do it all and are expected to do it all. We constantly question ourselves. Are we doing enough? How can we do better? Isn’t funny that we question how we are doing and what we are doing while being so damn exhausted most of the time.

There are so many double standards out there when it comes to men and woman. If a woman gets divorces they worry how am I going to date, I am not as young as I used to be, maybe time has not been so kind to the ole’ face(yes she can visit the dermatologist for a number of youth treatments), but why should we? To look like a 25 year old. You know what, I emotionally would never want to be a 25 year old again. I doubt very much men fret over the wrinkles in their face or if their “tush” is not as small as it used to be.Woman tend to be a lot more forgiving if a man is overweight or no longer has hair. I don’t think most men are not that open minded when it comes to a woman’s appearance.

I am just saying I hate the fact that there is so much social pressure on women to do it all. The other morning while rushing to catch the bus for school I had a breakdown trying to get on my snow boots along with my daughter. I had been up at 5:00 AM to go to the gym, I had to prepare that day for a video shoot I was directing, I had to deal with our year end taxes, pick up new ballet shoes for my eldest and finally send out invitations for my 2 year class cocktail party. As all these thoughts of “to dos” were running through my head I was still struggling to get my boot on. ALL of a sudden my husband looks at me while he is staring at himself in the mirror getting ready for work, “Do I look ok”? Maybe I should wear the brown sweater instead of this navy one? I looked up sweating since I had my winter garb on and replied, “Yeah, sure”. The tears started to flow down my face. I had been pushed to my limit. I could care less about his fashion dilemma. He barely noticed I was even upset at that moment. He has many great qualities but I do not even think he know what the term multi-task means.

I get so overwhelmed at times I feel like I am going to explode. I just thank goodness for my amazing girlfriends because I know that they too feel the same way at times. SO ladies, we are blessed even when nothing on our to do list gets crossed off to have each other.

My must have Must do list:

Valentine’s Day gifts for your little sweeties: These affordable tees from Children’s Place (www.childrensplace.com) are adorned with red hearts and the words “Love” or “My Sweet” on them. Also check out their Sleepwear “Love Monkey” pajamas, slippers. Other pj styles include long-sleeve heart nightgowns.

 


Here is a little winter glam pick me up for your chilly evenings out:
(JCrew.com) Satin Clutch.I love the “jewel” on the these purses. $98.00

Red Salam Teapot. This is a French Classic teapot made since 1953. Perfect for
Valentines Day and just a beautiful piece to have sitting on your stove. williams-sonoma.com

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Dr Geary recommends

Thursday, January 29th, 2009

Here in Manhattan it is cold and everyone is a little tense…but Obama is president and Valentine’s Day is only three weeks away…as a pediatrician I rarely have time to shop and I avoid a lot of Hallmark holidays but I confess Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that always gets me shopping….here are some suggestions for healthier treats for your kids on the day when the rest of America is overindulging in heart-shaped boxes of bad chocolate.

  • The ultimate lunch box from www.lunchsense.com is not just healthy for the environment ( BPA free, lead free and vinyl free ) they are super healthy for your child-they promote the idea of portion control and reduce food waste! Plus they are light and hip to carry and it opens up to double as a sitting mat or placemat.

     

     

  • Planet Pixies Save the Earth from www.gifts.com (Kayla the Marsh Pixie).
    The Planet Pixies are eco-friendly soft dolls. Each doll character hails from a different endangered zone of the globe and is crafted from certified organic cotton and natural materials. Even the packaging is made of 100 percent post-consumer recycled cardboard.

     

     

  • The HABA Duck Pull Toy from www.childtrek.com is an adorable wooden duck that can help babies and toddlers learn to walk. The HABA Duck Pull Toy is made of beech wood and acrylic using child-safe, non-toxic, water-based paints. HABA is a family-owned and multi-award winning German company.

     

     

  • Betty Lou’s organic smackers from www.veganessentials.com. North Shore Smackers have the healthy benefit of 1000mg of Spirulina in each treat. Made from chocolate, almond butter, oats and crisped brown rice. Almond Butter Smackers taste like peanut butter but safe for kids with peanut allergies.

     

     

  • Little Cupid Tutu from www.greenstartbabyart.com
    This cute adorable tutu has been pixie cut on the bottom and then red and silver sequins have been handsewn onto the tutu. Just remember that rhinestones and sequins are choking hazards for children under 3 years of age,so if you choose to have these extras please watch your child carefully.

     

     

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Product safety Update: Some recent news updates you need to read

Thursday, January 22nd, 2009

Playsets:

It turns out that many older wooden play sets have been treated with arsenic!
What to do:

  • Replace high exposure areas like handrails, steps, or deck boards with non-arsenic alternatives- get help from your local builder!
  • Wash your child’s hands( and your own) after playing on the play set especially before eating.
  • Be sure to bring a tablecloth to cover potentially arsenic-treated picnic tables in the playground.
  • If you have a deck, do not store toys or tools underneath because Arsenic leaches from the wood when it rains.

Skincare

  • Just because a label says “natural” doesn’t mean it is safe for your little one’s delicate skin.
  • avoid triclosan, BHA, fragrance, and oxybenzone.
  • Check out www.vedaPURE.com for more information and healthy products.

Food

  • Choose to buy organic fruits and vegetables, or use FoodNews.org to find conventionally grown produce with the least pesticides.
  • Please buy only organic when it comes to dairy and and meat to avoid growth hormones.
  • Limit canned food and infant formula, as can linings contain bisphenol A (BPA).
  • Many plastics contain BPA, which is carcinogenic. Avoid clear, hard plastic bottles marked with a “7” or “PC.”
  • Don’t microwave plastic containers. Stay away from toys marked with a “3” or “PVC.”
  • Filter your tap water. Mix infant formula with fluoride-free water.

Household Chemicals

  • Non-stick cookware can emit toxic fumes. Instead, try to cook with cast iron or stainless steel .
  • Use a HEPA-filter vacuum. Household dust can contain lead and fire retardants.
  • Have your child remove his shoes and school clothing when he gets home to decrease the risk of him/her speading pollutants and germs inside yourhouse.
  • Use greener cleaners & avoid pesticides.
  • which can irritate kids’ lungs, especially if your child has asthma.
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When you want your toddler to still be a baby…

Thursday, January 15th, 2009

Maybe I need a new “project” in my life? But have you ever looked at your growing child and really yearned for them to be a baby again? Or wanted to have another baby because your youngest is getting older?

My two year 11 month old child really pulls my heart strings.. She says everything from, “mom you look beautiful” to “that was a bad dinner.” Today she told me,” lay down momma, I give you a massage”. She even puts herself in her own “time outs”. I never thought I would say this, but I want her to still be a baby. I am actually one of these “crazy” mums that misses the baby stage.

I think the in between stage can be a very hard stage (one of the many) for mums. We love to see our children grow and become independent because that also validates that we are doing a good job as parent. I can’t help but wonder though should we as mums be growing with them? Do we need to move onto the next phase in our lives?

I never want to be one of those women that is left behind whether it is as a mum, in my career, or just in my personal sense of everyday life. Change and growth is hard at any age- no wonder why children throw tantrums when they are frustrated. I just wish there was some way to savor each stage of parenting and the time did not go by so quickly. Even the tough stages eventually end. For me, having a second child, helped me to realize this. Perhaps this is why I am hanging onto every “last baby moment”, like my toddler’s very chubby checks.

Send me pictures of special moments in your child’s development to our flickr account at modernmums…we can all cry together.

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Post Holiday Mood

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

It’s the New Year, vacation is over, and many children, like their parents, are feeling the post-holiday slump. But, in my practice, it is also a reminder to me that depression in children needs to be checked for, and not ignored. As adults, we talk a lot about our mood, and may even be cognizant of how the light and the seasons impact on our mood. But in children, depression often goes unrecognized. In fact, depression in childhood is a major health problem, effecting about 5% of children at any given time: about 1% of preschoolers, 2% of school-age children, and 5% of adolescents are affected. Depression can interfere with normal development, including school performance, peer relationships, self-esteem and life skill acquisition. In the older child or adolescent it can lead to substance abuse, behavior disorders and suicide.
Unfortunately, the biggest barrier to treatment for childhood depression is a lack of diagnosis. All too often, a child’s behavior is attributed to other problems, such as school learning difficulties, ADHD, “naughtiness” “stubbornness” or poor manners. Understanding childhood depression will help you to be on the look out for signs and symptoms that may merit attention.

What to look for:
The specific behaviors vary according to the age and developmental level of the child. A common complaint from a child or young adolescent who is not able to vocalize that they are sad is to say that they are bored, or mad. In fact, irritability is often the most reliable clue to a child’s shift in mood.
Other symptoms include:

  • Argumentative or aggressive
  • Lack of curiosity or motivation
  • Weight and appetitive changes
  • Sleep alterations
  • Lack of concentration, focus – disorganized
  • Feeling “sick’ a lot, fatigued
  • Negative self-comments such as ‘you hate me’, ‘I have no friends’
  • Morbid thoughts- worrying about death
  • Extremely fearful
  • Impulsive
  • Crying, feeling sad, helpless or hopeless
  • Loss of interest in most activities
  • Fatigue and loss of energy nearly every day
  • Drop in school performance
  • Inability to sit still, fidgeting or pacing
  • Repeated emotional outbursts, shouting or complaining

In most pediatric practices, the child typically seems sad, tired and withdrawn. Younger children often complain of stomachaches and headaches, whereas older children and adolescents complain of exhaustion and weepiness.

What can help?

  • Treatment for depression is multi-focused:
  • Diagnostic evaluation by a professional
  • Medication if indicated in more serious cases
  • Evaluation of the school environment and its impact on the current situation.
  • Evaluation of the home/parental environment and its impact on the current situation.
  • Possible Family therapy because there is considerable evidence to suggest that treatment of the whole family, is critical.
  • Individual therapy.
  • Peer group approaches have been found to be effective for children.
  • Play therapy is sometimes appropriate with younger children.

In summary:

  • Don’t be shy to ask your child’s doctor for advice and potentially an evaluation if you suspect your child’s mood is down for a prolonged period of time ( greater than 2 weeks)
  • Be sure your child is eating well. Do not let him/her skip meals or eat alone in the bedroom. Avoid meal skipping. A healthy diet is critical for your child to have the strength to cope and recover.
  • Try to have your child maintain good sleep hygiene. Irregular sleep can prolong or worsen depression.
  • Keep your child involved in regular activities and avoid social isolation. This includes regular exercise as well as play dates and social activities.

[ drawing by Samantha, age 13: see mlore drawings about this subject on www.dbsalliance.org]

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Travel and nutrition: What to do?

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

Having recently traveled with my three kids for the holiday, and missed connecting flights, I was reminded again about the appalling level of nutritional options at major airports. It has inspired me to develop a line of travel snacks for vedaPURE that will provide organic and healthy snacks to airports in the future. Meanwhile, some thoughts on how to navigate your child’s nutritional needs during travel…
Obviously, bringing food with you is the best way to ensure good nutrition and healthy eating. But that isn’t always possible or practical.

If you are bringing snacks from home remember:
• If you’re traveling for longer than 30 minutes, pack perishable food such as meat, poultry, eggs, cheese and salads with a freezer pack.
• Pack drinks in a separate cooler so the food cooler is not opened as frequently.
• Do not stow the cooler in the trunk of the car, which gets much hotter than the passenger compartment.
• Pack snacks from at least two food groups, and choose those that are low in added salt, sugar and fat and made from fewer processed ingredients.
• Avoid snacks that melt, crumble, stick or dribble down chins.
• Pack individual snack-lunch bags for children or have them pick, prepare and pack their own.
• Give kids several components to “build” a snack with rice cakes, cheese, fruit
• If you are traveling by plane, call and request a low-sodium, diabetic or vegetarian meal- these are more likely to contain healthier options. Kids meals tend to be full of cookies and junk to ‘please” your child but are usually extremely low in nutritional value.


Some snack suggestions:

• For toddlers, Stick with familiar finger foods, such as unsweetened organic cereal such as Puffins; organic cheese sticks; rice cakes, and fruit twizzlers or fresh fruit. Be sure not to pack choking hazards such as grapes, berries, raisins, nuts, and seeds, especially if you are driving and the child is in the back seat out of your reach.
• Elementary-age children may want to participate in packing their own snacks, especially if you have a special lunch box cooler for them. These include everything from the toddler list, plus fresh fruit, carrot and celery sticks, applesauce cups, yogurt, popcorn, pretzels, trail mix, and fruit leathers.
• Children 12 and older can certainly participate in planning their snack meals and still avoid junk! Energy bars, fruit/yogurt shakes, rice cakes, trail mix and fresh fruit.

If you are stuck at an airport:

Look for places that serve breakfast food- eggs, oatmeal, and yogurt
Avoid high-sodium fast foods such as Chinese: when flying your body retains water and the sodium effect will be more pronounced
Many newsstands sell energy bars- while not a substitute for good nutrition, it is better than chips and candy
Water, water, water- avoid juices and energy drinks

PLEASE email me at modernmums1@gmail.com with requests or suggestions for travel snack packs coming from www.vedaPURE.com

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